Intensely excited? Good news: we have the best vibrators money can buy. There are more than a dozen reasons why masturbation is good for you: it can help you relax, improve your mood, and potentially fall asleep faster. Masturbation can also increase your libido, ease the pain of your menstrual cramps, and let’s be honest, using a sex toy can also feel like a workout. Ahead of Valentine’s Day, we tapped a panel of sex experts to get their thoughts on the best vibrators for people with vulvas.
How to choose the best vibrator?
Although fingers are a great sex toy, many of us turn to vibrators for our masturbation needs. « Rocking your hips, arching your back, rubbing against your toy », whatever you do, sex educator Luna Matatas says to « give it » to your vibrator rather than using your vibration to « give it to you ». But to really get into it, you have to have the right vibrator. The best vibrators come in several different styles, with more or less powerful motors, and come in materials ranging from hard metal to soft silicone. Finding the right vibrator for you may take some experimentation.
Besides masturbation, using sex toys with a partner can increase pleasure for both parties and invite a sense of play into the bedroom (or bathroom, or kitchen…). « There are a lot of couples looking for vibrators to use together, » says Jenn Mason, founder and owner of wink wink, a Washington-based women-owned sex shop. « Sometimes the instinct is to go for something really small and unobtrusive for the first time, but I always encourage people to consider buying something a little bigger if they’re using it with a partner, because it has more chances of success and it is easier to find the right place.
Looking to expand your collection from that little ball vibe you picked up at Spencer years ago? If you’re not sure how to navigate the many options, we’ve talked to experts and curated a list of the best vibes based on their recommendations. Whether you’re new to sex toys or you and your partner are looking for a few to try out together, these choices are fun for everyone. Mason notes that most, if not all, of these will feel great on a penis or around other erogenous zones as well. Check out all of our expert-recommended sex toy picks here.
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