Young families know the joys and pressures of raising a family. The demands of the schedule, the financial demands, not to mention the emotional, physical and marital stresses. It is a big step in life to move from taking care of yourself to taking care of children. Moms tend to lead this ship that sails through parenthood, but what about daddy?
Fathers do not compete with mothers. They are partners, co-captains, trusted allies. Being a parent is a journey without a roadmap, and having a good travel companion is an added bonus. So this Father’s Day, what does mom need to know on a day that celebrates dads? Here are some ideas on what he can see, hear and feel that day …
1. He wants to feel a priority again
Before the children arrived, it was just you and him. He got used to being groomed, worshiped, cooked, bought gifts, outings, phone calls and texts. He was your goal. Then the children came along, as did the child-centered priorities. Kids need attention the most, and well, they get it.
Dads aren’t just another kid. Even though moms joke about it, they aren’t. Their roles may be very different from a mother’s, but they always want to feel a priority. So just forget to handle the golf balls, and go for something that costs nothing: your attention. Ask him what he wants that day, or surprise him, but just let him know that despite the circumstances (ahem, kids), he’s still number one in your eyes.