Adele says she suffered ‘fairly extreme’ postpartum melancholy, however here is what she thinks about parenting now


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Adele faced mental health challenges after giving birth to her son who will be familiar to many new parents. In a new interview with The face This week, the singer explained that she experienced « really, really bad » postpartum depression when she first became a mom nine years ago.

During the interview, Adele explained something she said during her Grammy acceptance speech in 2017: that she « lost a lot » of herself during pregnancy and new motherhood. “There are definitely a few parts of myself that I don’t think I will ever find again,” said Adele, who gave birth to her son Angelo in 2012. “More than anything is the freedom to be able to do anything. what you want, when you want. Go somewhere and not have to prioritize someone else.  » Since Angelo was born, he has « obviously » been Adele’s « number one priority », she said.

Adele, 33, said the demands of constantly caring for a newborn baby and the enormous emotional burden of parenting were contributing to her deteriorating mental health. “Give, give, give, to a baby or toddler, when they can’t even talk to you, your brain gets a little mushy. You are not very stimulated, ”said Adele. « In this I also had very bad postpartum depression, or postpartum as we call it. [in the UK].  »

Figuring out how to answer the question « what kind of parent do you want to be » was also a challenge for Adele. “No one wants to be like their own parents, no matter how good parents they were or not. You learn to be a parent on the go,” Adele said. “Or you start reading books, and whatnot. isn’t fair either, because it’s someone else’s experience and they’re all completely different. « Meanwhile, the lack of time to look after herself and focus on her – even made Adele feel like she lost her identity and her ability to have her own life. « I don’t even have time to brush my teeth, let alone write a record or go out with it. my friends, « Adele said. » My friends, my hobbies, the things I love to do without a baby, are things that make me who I am. And I haven’t really had access to them for a while. moment.

While Angelo is still at the center of Adele’s world, the singer is now more able to balance the altruism of parenthood with her identity outside of motherhood. “It definitely gets easier as they get older, it really is,” Adele said. “I don’t think I was ever completely selfless before I had Angelo. I always have this thing where every decision I make, I think of it first. She continued, « It still makes me cry a little bit every now and then. Maybe I don’t cry anymore, maybe I suck more. Kind of like, ooh, what would I do and where would I go? « 

Parenting an almost nine-year-old is also « fucking fun » for Adele. « He’s awesome. He’s a fucking comedian, like a real comedian, » she said. “As they get older you can take them everywhere with you and they can tell you if they don’t like something, what they want, if they are hungry or if they have a stomach ache, whatever. C it’s much easier to navigate once you can really communicate with them.


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