My ex disrespects me


Hello, my dear readers! I can already feel your shivers just reading the title, don’t you? “My ex disrespects me”… Ah, what a story! If there’s one thing I don’t miss, it’s stories like this to tell you. So sit back with your cup of tea, and get ready to decipher the language of respect (or rather, disrespect) with a good dose of humour!

What is disrespect in a relationship?

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“Respect is a two-way street. If you want to get it, you have to give it.”

THE lack of respect, my dears, is nothing but a flagrant violation of non-reciprocity. It manifests itself in several ways: hurtful words, manipulation, aggressive or denigrating behavior… The list is long!

Why is my ex disrespecting me?

I know, it’s tempting to think your ex is disrespectful just because he’s a vile, evil being. But it’s not always that simple. Sometimes it can be linked to a lack of self-esteem, unhealthy relationship patterns learned in childhood, or an inability to manage emotions. Understanding these reasons doesn’t justify their behavior, but it can help you avoid taking their disrespect as a personal attack.

How do I deal with an ex who disrespects me?

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Let’s start with the most important: the first step in dealing with an ex who disrespects you is to set your limits. It’s not easy, I know, but it’s essential. You have the right to say ‘no’, to say ‘stop’, and to demand the respect you deserve. If your ex crosses these lines, often the best thing to do is to break off all contact.

Situation where an ex disrespects and how to react to it

Take the example of Caroline. Her ex, Thomas, had a bad habit of constantly criticizing her. One day he called her “stupid”. Instead of remaining silent, Caroline decided to set limits. She said calmly to him: “Thomas, I don’t accept that you speak to me in this way. It’s disrespectful and hurtful. If you continue, I will have to cease all communication with you.” Thomas’ reaction? He apologized.

Lesson from a woman who set boundaries

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Here is another example with Nathalie. She was dealing with an ex who kept harassing her with messages. After unsuccessfully setting boundaries, she made the drastic but necessary decision to break all contact blocking his number. It was a challenge, but Nathalie finally felt immense relief and a reclamation of her personal space.

3 mistakes to avoid when your ex disrespects you

  • 1. Justify their behavior: It’s never your fault if someone disrespects you.
  • 2. Ignore your intuition: If something seems wrong to you, it probably is.
  • 3. Maintain contact: If your ex continues to be disrespectful after setting boundaries, it’s time to end the communication.

2 golden rules for respecting yourself in a relationship

  • 1. Never let anyone put you down: You are worthy of respect and kindness.
  • 2. Respect your own boundaries: If you don’t respect them, how can you expect others to?

1 tip to break up permanently with a disrespectful ex

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Here’s my little trick: write a letter. Not for him, but for you. In this letter, describe your feelings, pain, and outrage. Then burn it or tear it up. It’s a symbolic way to say goodbye and close a chapter in your life.

In conclusion, my dears, always remember this: your value does not diminish because someone does not see your true value. Never let an ex or anyone disrespect you. You are strong, you are brave, and you deserve respect in all circumstances.

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