« It would be like, ‘OK, this is what I need at two in the morning when I’m breastfeeding: please have a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and water in waiting so I’m not looking for this thing in the middle of the night while trying to feed a two-week-old baby,” she says.
Carve out your social space.
To carve out a healing space for himself, Arzón spent far less time on social media. Although she’s amassed a ton of subscribers, Arzón has thought about her level of engagement with them, planning her content ahead of time so she doesn’t have to keep up with the endless influx of likes, comments and shares.
« It was just because I needed to create this cocoon of strength around me, » she says.
Creating intentional boundaries around his social media use is nothing new for Arzón. In 2018, she share that she participates in an annual « digital detox », deleting her apps for an entire day in order to regain a sense of presence in her life. “Life is the meal; social media is the snack,” she wrote.
Recognize that it’s not all joy.
Arzón believes that embracing all of the emotions that come with the postpartum experience is a necessary step in moving forward in fitness and in the new stage of life in general.
“There’s a really nice surrender to parenthood for people giving birth. You become someone’s first home and sometimes you feel like you’re in the middle of a construction site,” she says. « It’s very real. But it’s normal to feel most joyful and grateful and to recognize when things aren’t going well.
For example, Arzón dealt with the loss of three of her uncles during the same year that she was pregnant with Athena.
« We can be ‘both and,' » she says. « I was so joyful, so hopeful, and also really grieving and grieving. There are complicated feelings that can happen to us on a daily, hourly, minute basis when we’re pregnant and postpartum and well into parenthood – that’s OK.
When you feel up to it, schedule workouts that make you feel good.
Arzón regularly began to increase the duration and intensity of his training with the sole aim of finding a physical and mental state that would make him feel better about his new role, not to pursue a performance goal or physical ideal. .
“I still don’t know what I weigh,” she says. « It’s very intentional because I don’t want to focus on numbers that for me won’t be additive and useful. »
As she added more intense workouts to her routine, she honed in on what her all-important adjective « bustle » now means to her.
« I redefined ‘hustle,' » she says. « My hustle now is to bend not to break and really ask myself, ‘What do I need now?' »
For example, take her #3for31 challenge in December, where she invited people to join her in walking or running three miles every day of the month or recording 30 minutes of movement. Rather than holding herself to a rigid standard every day — say she should run three miles at a time *every day — Arzón instead sought out and celebrated opportunities to break her goal into smaller pieces. « Every little bit counts, » she says wrote on Instagram. (Of course, three miles or 30 minutes a day can still be a lot if you’re just starting out, so don’t be afraid to tweak the challenges to meet you where you are!)
Go back to basics to rediscover your “why”.
It is undeniable that progress is good. But progress isn’t linear, and especially during the postpartum period, the expectations and pressure to keep going can really get in the way of the joy that comes with moving your body.